Should you do it? What is the etiquette? Who gets invited? There are so many “rules” to keep in mind when it comes to bachelorette parties in general. Imagine what it’s like for second-time brides.
If you’re wondering if you should do it, we have the answers for you right here. There’s not a lot of things stopping you. Maybe you care about what the people will say, but think about how fun these parties are.
Some things might be different from your first bachelorette party as well. Your second time will probably be a bit tamer. You’re all grown-up now, so it’s unlikely that you’ll be up for partying all night. Still, we have some great ideas for tame parties as well.
Should You Do It?
Marrying more than once has been a taboo since the beginning of time — or at least, since the beginnings of marriage as a concept. Why’s that? A marriage is supposed to be a sacred union that nothing and nobody can break. Sadly, more often than not, things happen to get in the way of a couple’s happiness, and what follows is a divorce.
Back in the day, having a divorce would mean you just remain alone for the rest of your life. Who knows what would people think if you — God forbid — found someone else or remarried. Thankfully, those times are long gone now. Today, in the modern world, having someone after your first marriage is more normal than ever.
That means that having a divorce is more normal than ever too. If you find yourself in a situation like this, you may choose to have another wedding ceremony. It’s a long and complicated process, as we’re sure you already know. You decide whether you want it or not based on how much effort you want to put into your relationship. Since you’re here, we’re sure you’ve already made up your mind.
Customs are often different for the first and second wedding ceremonies. Many people believe that the bride shouldn’t wear a white gown for the second time, simply because she’s no longer “pure.”
So Is It a Yay or a Nay?
One of the things that precede a wedding ceremony is a bachelorette party. So should you do it? Absolutely!
It doesn’t matter if you’re getting married for the second or the fifth time. A bachelorette party is a great way to send the bride off into the life of commitment. Plus, it’s just so much fun!
If you’re looking for more reasons to throw a great bachelorette party, think of it as a great way to bond with women on the groom’s side of the family. You may or may not know or like each other so far, but having fun together is sure to make you feel closer.
Bachelorette parties aren’t exclusive to first-time marriages only. So if you want to have one — there’s absolutely nothing stopping you from having it.
What Changes?
Second-time bachelorette parties differ from the first ones for many reasons. One of them is the fact that you may not be so young anymore. That means that you might not be in the mood to party all night. That’s alright too. There are numerous ways to have fun at a bachelorette party.
In case you’re merging the bridal shower and bachelorette party, you want to think about the kind of gifts you want your attendees to bring. Most of the time, people bring things you will need in your new home. However, this doesn’t have to be the case if you’re already well-situated.
Also, think about the fun activities you can do. Of course, you’re not the one planning the party for yourself. The bride never does that. Still, you have a say in everything that can happen. That means you can go to your maid of honor — or whoever is throwing the party — and discuss the possible themes and activities for your second-time bachelorette party.
In case nothing comes to mind, you’re in luck. We have several different bachelorette party ideas that you might love. Don’t worry — we don’t need credits for them. You can say it was you who came up with them.
Bachelorette Party Ideas
To be perfectly clear, you are more than welcome to have a girls’ night out and have fun in clubs and bars. However, we offer you some ideas for a tamer bachelorette party. Think of them as grown-up style parties. Why? Because we aren’t as young as we once were.
Some of the great party ideas include:
- Wine tasting/Vineyard hopping
- High tea
- Cooking/Calligraphy/Pottery/etc. classes
- Spa day
- Destination party
All of these ideas have something in common — they’re fun, relaxing, and “get the job done.” A party doesn’t need to include going crazy just to be considered a party. Think of things you’ll never be able to talk your future husband into and do exactly that. Your options are pretty much endless.
We know that some of you will feel the pressure to do it bigger and better than the first time. But hear us when we say that a bachelorette party can be a simple dinner in a fancy restaurant as well. As long as you surround yourself with people you love and have fun with, you can consider it a success.
Conclusion
Can a second-time bride have a bachelorette party? The answer to that question seems to be pretty simple. Yes, if she so chooses. Many brides will choose not to have these parties or even wedding ceremonies because of societal pressures. But you shouldn’t let this stop you from doing what you want.
As far as we’re concerned, you should have whatever kind of party or wedding you want to because nobody else has any say in it, except you and the groom-to-be. If there are people who want to say something negative, they simply won’t get an invitation.When it comes to bachelorette parties, we think that everyone should experience them at least once in their life.
